I finally got highlighting to work correctly. Now only the player who is mentioned receives a message with their name colored.
Two new commands: /chatping toggle message (toggles whether or not to send a notification message to a user mentioned in chat) and /chatping reload (reloads the config file)
I am working on having the name be colored in chat for the user it matches, but for now I have done this workaround: the name remains unchanged in public chat, but the user is sent a message stating who mentioned you and what their message was.